Now I know it has been a while since I was pregnant, and especially since I was in the second trimester, but I really wanted to write down what I do remember so that I can look back on this later on.
I found the second trimester to be the easiest of the three trimesters, in terms of symptoms. I think this was mostly because my bump was not that big until towards the end of the second trimester, and all of the nausea and tiredness from the first trimester had gone. I was really fortunate to not suffer with any heartburn or SPD pain throughout the whole of my pregnancy so these weren’t an issue for me during this trimester. As I remember I struggled the most with dealing with a bump and working as a midwife during this trimester, as even though I wasn’t that big, getting into the necessary but really awkward positions to help other people have their babies was really tough and tiring.
One of the best symptoms, if you can call it that, of the second trimester was starting to feel the baby move. I first felt the baby move at about 15 weeks and it felt like popcorn going off in my tummy, or like an elastic band snapping me. It was the most amazing feeling and it is one of the loveliest parts of being pregnant. I found that this was when I really started to bond with the baby and felt like it was me and him in it together. At this stage the movements weren’t regular, and it was only when I was about 24 weeks that they started to get a bit more regular and develop more of a pattern (obviously if at any point you are concerned about your baby’s movements when pregnant please contact your maternity unit for advice).
I found dealing with anxiety about the health of the baby was probably the worst symptom I experienced during the second trimester. When I found out I was pregnant, I didn’t get the rush of happiness that I expected to get, and so I thought I would experience that rush when I reached the second trimester but to be honest I didn’t get it until I reached 24 weeks. Up until 24 weeks, I didn’t feel like I was going to be having a baby and that was a really horrible way to feel for really quite a large proportion of my pregnancy. I think a lot of this was to do with my job and seeing a lot of people experience horrible things during this stage of their pregnancies.
Midwife Appointments & Scans
During the second trimester I had two midwife appointments, one at 16 weeks and one at 25 weeks, and one scan at 20 weeks. At the first midwife appointment I was informed of my blood results from my booking appointment and 12 week scan and fortunately everything came back fine, and I also got to hear the baby’s heartbeat for the first time! This was one of the best moments of my pregnancy and it was just incredible to be able to hear the proof that there was a tiny baby in my tummy! I had resisted having anyone listen in to the baby at work because I hoped that my husband would be able to make the 16 week appointment and we could hear it together but in the end he wasn’t able to. I’m still glad I waited though!
At the twenty week scan the sonographer checked that everything was fine with all of the baby’s major organs, and that everything still looked low risk (i.e. my placenta was in the right place etc.) which fortunately it was. We also found out we were having a boy at this scan and it was such a shock! Prior to the scan I was absolutely convinced I was having a girl so even though I didn’t mind having a boy, it did take me a couple of days to get used to the idea. Now obviously I absolutely love having a boy and wouldn’t change it for the world, but I’m definitely glad I found out during my pregnancy instead of waiting until he was born. I think I had spent all of those months imagining a girl and talking to the baby as if he was a girl that I just needed to get my head around the fact he was actually a boy. And we needed to really think about boy’s names, as we really struggled with boy’s names but we have had our girl name picked for years!
After the 20 week scan, I had my midwife appointment at 25 weeks and I got to listen to the baby’s heartbeat again and had all of the usual, blood pressure, wee, checked and that was all fine. By this appointment I had been seen twice in hospital as I’m rhesus negative and I had bumped my tummy on a wheelchair and wall at work and I’d also had a small bleed. Fortunately everything was fine with the baby but I did have to have all of the unpleasant things that come along with that such as speculum, bloods taken and Anti-D, and after all that we found out Harry has a negative blood group when he was born so I didn’t need the Anti-D after all. But there’s no way of knowing when you are pregnant so you have to err on the side of caution. On a side note if anyone is worried about having the above done, it’s obviously unpleasant but it’s really not that bad and it’s definitely worth it.
Overall, I did enjoy the second trimester and found that I was very lucky to be relatively symptom free during this stage and to not have a massive bump, but until I was at 24 weeks I couldn’t really relax and enjoy it which looking back is such a shame. Hopefully, in subsequent pregnancies I will be able to relax more.