Harry’s 3 Month Update

Harry’s 3 Month Update

I can’t believe Harry is already 3 months old! The time is going so fast that I thought I would write an update, so I can remember what he is like at 3 months when he is leaving home for university and I’m crying into his babygrows!

Weight & Size

Harry is only weighed once a month now as his weight has always been fine. He was last weighed on 31st August and was 13lb 8oz! He is still at roughly the 60th centile so is doing really well! He is now in 3-6 month clothes and I’m really enjoying dressing him in lots of new outfits! Dungarees seem to be a definite hit at the moment.

Feeding

Harry is still exclusively breastfed but I am still pumping once a day to donate breast milk and also to store up a bit of extra milk for Harry as he also takes a bottle of expressed milk every now and again. He is still feeding on demand but feeds roughly every 2.5 -3 hours in the day, with longer stretches between feeds at night. I still can’t believe that he has only had what my body has produced and that at the moment I am all that is keeping him going. Absolutely mad really. I’m also still having a problem with an oversupply of milk which I’m sort of continuing myself by pumping and donating my breast milk but I’m hoping to donate everything I’ve got so far this week and then call it a day. I will have donated over 5 litres so I feel like that is good going really, and seeing as it is causing problems with feeding I should call it a day really. Hopefully, then my milk will calm down a bit and Harry won’t pull off and splutter so much when feeding. That’s the plan anyway.

Sleep

Harry is sleeping so much better this month. He has always been a good sleeper in the day so is still having at least 2 long naps a day (1-2 hours each) with then a couple of shorter naps as well, especially if he is in the car or out in the pram. He absolutely loves falling asleep in the car but will usually wake up as soon as the car stops if he wasn’t due a nap. Harry is also sleeping much better at night now. He has slept through the night (from 11-5:30 which I am counting as sleeping through) a couple of times now which has been amazing, but these nights are usually followed by awful nights so nothing consistent is happening just yet. The last couple of days he seems to be sleeping until about 4/4:30 regardless of when he goes down to sleep, then he has a feed and then goes to sleep until 6am when he is awake for the day, and has some time with Mike before he comes back down for a nap with me at about 7:30am. He still has a pretty standard bedtime routine but not at a set time every night. I usually feed him when he wants a feed between 7-8pm and then we will play for about half an hour, then have a bath and then he will be put to bed on his own, in his sleeping bag with a dummy, and he will usually go to sleep within 15 minutes. If he doesn’t go to sleep straightaway he is normally happy chatting away to himself before he drifts off and I know we are so lucky that he is so good at settling himself at night so hopefully that continues!! Having some time to ourselves in the evening has been absolutely amazing and has meant that I enjoy the time when he is awake so much as well!

Milestones

Harry started smiling at 5 weeks and started rolling from front to back at 11 weeks, which has made tummy time a lot more interesting as he just rolls straight onto his back now and has a giggle! His head control is now so much better and he is happier on his front (in between rolls) for much longer. He started laughing last week which was so lovely but he still isn’t laughing regularly. He is also getting really good at sitting up with support which makes him look like such a big boy! He seems to be finding it a lot harder to roll from his back to his tummy but in the last week I think he is getting closer because he is arching his back and swinging his legs more, but to be honest I am not in any rush for him to reach this milestone because I am enjoying being able to put him down and know he is safe and can’t go anywhere. He also loves chatting away now which is so, so lovely! Harry is also dribbling away and loves gnawing on his hands so I’m wondering if some teeth are on their way.

The first trimester (Part 2)

The first trimester (Part 2)

I wrote about how I found out I was pregnant in The first trimester (Part 1), and I thought I would carry on with talking about my first trimester by discussing the symptoms I experienced.

Symptoms

The first symptom I experienced, I actually felt about a week before I found out I was pregnant, and that symptom was really sore boobs. Even though we were trying for a baby it didn’t even occur to me that sore boobs was a hint that I was pregnant, but I remember saying to my best friends that I wanted to stick my boobs in an ice bucket! It even hurt to go in the shower and have the water touch them, and felt like they had grown to page 3 size overnight! This symptom eased as I progressed to the second trimester but my boobs will probably never be the same as they were pre-pregnancy, which is a real darn shame.

Other than sore boobs, when I found out I was pregnant (at 4 weeks) I didn’t have any other symptoms. However, about a week later I started to feel some of the symptoms that would worsen over the first trimester, one of which was tiredness. I have never felt tiredness like first trimester, pregnancy tiredness, and that is coming from someone who regularly did night shifts. It felt like I had been hit over the head and needed to sleep it off, but even after I had slept all night (and let’s be honest had at least one nap in the day) I would still be exhausted. I thought I slept a lot before I was pregnant, but I entered a whole new level in the first trimester.

Another symptom I had was lethargy bordering on laziness. Everything just seemed to take so much effort, and the week after I found out I was pregnant I rotated from a ward down to delivery suite which was so draining that I didn’t seem to be able to do anything else on my days off. The way my job worked was even though I worked full time, it would be 12.5 hour shifts but only 3 (and every 4th week four) shifts a week, so I don’t know if the laziness was worse because I was working such long days but that’s definitely the excuse I’m using. Also, I didn’t tell people I was pregnant at work until I was 14 weeks pregnant so I was trying to act as normal as possible and carry out my job without people guessing, which when you are delivering babies is pretty difficult, and probably didn’t help how I was feeling on my days off. I remember on one of my days off, making my only job be to unload the dishwasher and anything else was a bonus! Thank goodness I had an understanding husband. It was also really hard at this point because my family didn’t know I was pregnant either, so I remember one of my sisters getting really frustrated with me that I didn’t take some photographs on time for a calendar she was making for our parents, but it just seemed like an insurmountable task at the time (maybe I should add being dramatic to my symptoms list).

Another symptom I experienced was morning sickness and nausea. The nausea crept up on me gradually and wasn’t too bad to start off with but by the time I was 10 weeks pregnant I was being sick every morning as soon as I got up and occasionally in the evenings, and then I would feel nauseous for the rest of the day. Strong smells and having long gaps between eating would also make me feel worse, which obviously is not easy when you are working as a midwife, so I mastered holding my breath and I would always have a cereal bar in my pocket! I remember feeling that towards the end of the first trimester that I just could not carry on feeling sick for any longer, especially without knowing if everything was progressing as it should be, so I was very relieved when thankfully my symptoms disappeared at 12 weeks. I really do feel for anyone who suffers with hyperemesis gravidarum, because I found even just your bog standard morning sickness tough.

Fortunately, I didn’t put on any weight in my first trimester, however my appetite in the morning did dramatically increase (though I found that I couldn’t eat much in the evening because I tended to feel quite bloated and full). I didn’t have any weird and wonderful cravings but in the first trimester my main cravings were water and rice krispies (not together, that would be slightly odd). Thinking about it, it was probably my body telling me to increase my fluid intake, but I remember having a sip of water and telling my friend that water was seriously underrated (not in terms of life saving needs in third world countries but in general as a drink option in the wide range mostly available to me) and how amazing it tasted. I think I even actually sighed in satisfaction!

Finally, probably the scariest symptom I experienced was a cramping feeling in my tummy. It felt like mild, but constant, almost like period, cramps and although I was reassured by many a google search saying that was normal and just your uterus preparing for growing with the baby, it was still pretty worrying. Thankfully, I didn’t have any bleeding and the cramps were never stronger than mild, and after a couple of weeks either I had got used to it or they had eased (obviously please do get checked out if you are experiencing this and are worried). I did pull a muscle in my abdomen when I was 9 weeks pregnant which was absolutely awful but I will probably go into that in a different blog post, maybe about the difficulties of working when pregnant, because I did it at work.

I was very lucky that most of my symptoms stopped by the time I was 12 weeks pregnant and it was like a fog had lifted and I could get back to being my normal self again! I really do feel for anyone suffering with severe pregnancy symptoms and I hope it gets better for you soon!

What My Kid Wore #3

What My Kid Wore #3

This is another What My Kid Wore post, connected to the link up from This Mama Life. I really enjoy doing these posts because I am a lover of collecting memories, and my first three months of motherhood has flown by, so it’s so lovely to have photos to look back on. Harry is now 12 weeks old and is doing really well. He’s now fitting into some of his 3-6 month clothes so I’ve had fun dressing him in some new outfits that I’ve been waiting for him to fit into!

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Just look at that cheeky smile! I have to admit I blimming love dungarees for Harry, especially with the very changeable English weather in Autumn! They always look so cosy and are easy to add layers to make more suitable for colder days but can also be worn with just a vest if it’s a bit warmer! This outfit is from the Disney range at Tescos, and the long sleeved vest comes with the dungarees (and is available for £12 here). Isn’t it so cute! I think his socks are also from Tescos but they were a present from my baby shower so I can’t remember for definite!

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What My Kid Wore #2

What My Kid Wore #2

Unfortunately, I missed the What My Kid Wore Wednesday link up, but I thought I would still do a blog post because Harry has grown out of one of the outfits he wore and it is a super cute one! We went to see my sister, who lives about an hour and a half away, so Harry had some comfy clothes on at first and then I dressed him in another cute dungaree set when he vommed on the first outfit! As always, the idea for these posts is from This Mama Life so make sure to check out her smashing blog!

 

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Harry’s cousin has surrounded him with toys but the outfit he is wearing is actually the same grey, long sleeved vest that he wore last week (which you can get here), and this adorable pair of dungarees from Next (however, they are currently sold out in a lot of the smaller sizes). The dungarees are made from quite a thick fabric so were perfect seeing as the weather was pretty miserable but they still seemed comfortable. They are quite pricey at £18-£19, however they were a present and they also come with a lovely black and white striped, long sleeve vest. I find Next baby clothes to be good quality and wash well and these have lived up to those expectations. I’m very sad that Harry has outgrown them. Babies grow up so fast (and he’s not even 3 months old yet. Imagine how much of a mess I’m going to be when he goes to school).

For the drive down to visit my sister I wanted Harry to be comfortable so he wore a baby grow and I also absolutely love this. Just look at those dimples!

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Harry’s baby grow is from Debenhams and he was also wearing the matching vest underneath. This baby grow is also getting a bit tight so I don’t think it’s going to last much longer either, which is such a shame because it is so soft and cosy and has also washed well. Both the vest and baby grow are available here and here. The baby grow comes in a pack of two for £14 and the other one is also a really lovely print. The vest is £8 for a pack of two, with the print matching those of both the baby grows. Although pricier than some brands, I have found these to be worth the money and have repurchased them from when I had them in the newborn size and to be honest I will probably buy them again when he grows out of them!

Hopefully I will get next week’s post up in time because I love looking back on all of his outfits and they grow out of things so quickly!

The first trimester (Part 1)

The first trimester (Part 1)

When I had Harry I was so excited to have him with us but I also really missed being pregnant. It was such a weird feeling and not something my husband understood, but I think maybe because I went into labour naturally 9 days before my due date and I hadn’t reached that super uncomfortable stage, I wasn’t ready to not be pregnant anymore. There is something so special about being pregnant and I loved creating that amazing bond with your baby. So, I thought I would write a summary of my pregnancy before I forget and I thought I would start with the first trimester. Also, as I have started writing this I have realised that there is so much I want to write down and remember so I will be splitting this into parts.

Finding out I was pregnant

I found out I was pregnant the day my period was due. We had been trying for a baby since the January and I got a positive test for the first time in October, and I had found the whole process surprisingly difficult emotionally (I’m sure I will do a blog post in the future about trying to conceive so I won’t go into too much detail now). I had been at work and hadn’t had any symptoms of coming on my period which was unusual for me so I wondered if I could possibly be pregnant, and I think deep down I just knew I was. I didn’t have any tests left at home so I texted my husband, who was pretty fed up of me going through tests at a ridiculous rate, and asked him to get some on the way home from work as I worked long shifts. I was expecting him to reply with a ‘for goodness sake stop peeing on sticks and just wait until you have completely missed a period’ sort of response but actually he replied with a ‘sure, no problem’ and later he has said that he also had a weird feeling I was pregnant. He also said he was really proud to be buying a test and felt like he was about to find out he was going to be a dad which was super cute. As soon as I got home I took the test and straight away there was this undeniable positive result. I nearly fell off the toilet and I banged into the bath and poor Mike was worried  I had collapsed or something equally stupid so was asking me what was going on, so then I had to tell him that it was only bloody positive through the bathroom door. Not how I had imagined it to say the least. For all of those months of negative pregnancy tests I had imagined this rush of elation when I would finally get a positive test but I didn’t get that at all. Instead I just got this ‘oh my goodness I can’t believe this has finally happened’ feeling and also this overwhelming feeling of worry. I don’t know if it was because of the things I had seen in my job as a midwife but I didn’t feel that I was having a baby 9 months down the line, and that there were a lot of hurdles to overcome before the end result of a baby was even a possibility.

The next part will cover symptoms. Oh joy.

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The Mummy Tag

The Mummy Tag

I saw this tag on Ysis Lorenna’s blog  and thought it would be a good way to share a bit more about myself so here goes …

1. Are you a stay-at-home mum, or a working mum?

I am a mummy on maternity leave at the moment. I actually work as a midwife and I do plan to go back to work after my year of maternity leave.
2. Would you have it any other way?

Even though I am only two months into motherhood I really wouldn’t have it any other way. Anyone who knows me in my personal life knows how much I love children and that I have wanted to be a mother for so long, although now to less children (I used to want 8!).
3. Do you co-sleep?

Harry starts off in his crib that is attached to our bed and we plan to keep him in our room until he is at least 6 months old. I start every night with the best of intentions not to bring Harry into our bed but that always seem to go out of the window by the 3am feed!
4. What is your one must-have item for your baby?

At the moment I would say our bedside crib. We have the Snuzpod in Espresso which matches our bed and I just love that Harry is right next to me all night.

5. How many kids do you plan on having?

We plan on having 4 kids! I would love to have another baby quite soon so that Harry has a sibling that is close to him in age, and then a gap of at least a couple of years and then another two children close together.

6. Date night? How many nights per month?

Seeing as Harry is only two months old we haven’t had a date night at all yet. However, it is my birthday next month so we’re planning on having our first night out then! Woohoo!
7. Your child’s favourite show?

He doesn’t have a favourite show yet but Love Island was a maternity leave dream for me so he ended up watching a lot of that and I like to think he enjoyed it. His dad certainly did. The number of times he would just happen to be ready with a cup of tea for when it came on was too much to pass off as coincidental! I’ve even ended up working my way through the first series too!
8. Name one thing you bought before you had your baby and never ended up using?

I’m sure there will be many, many other items that I buy and never use but the main one that springs to mind so far has been a swaddle bag. We tried it when Harry was a very new newborn but it scared me too much because he loved having his arms up by his head and would sometimes get the bag a bit too close to his face for my comfort. Mum worries!
9. Your child’s favourite food?

He doesn’t have a favourite food yet, but during pregnancy I absolutely LOVED strawberries and chocolate eclairs, and now that I’m breastfeeding I eat a lot of twirl bites. They are just so good! I think I may write some blog posts in the future about my experiences with food cravings in pregnancy because they are some of my friends favourite stories about me. As a hint, one involves asking a girl in school uniform where she got the chocolate eclair that she was eating from because I couldn’t find one anywhere. Another story involves me, a service station, and a serious amount of food. If you think going food shopping when you are hungry is a bad life decision, try going to a service station when you are pregnant, hungry and with no one to tell you to STOP EATING THE FOOD!
10. How many cars does your family have?

We have two cars; I have a Polo and so does my husband. They are actually pretty cute parked next to each other on the drive but it isn’t deliberate to have matching cars, we just both like Polos and they suited us when we each needed a new car. I can’t see us having the same car again though.
11. Weight gain before pregnancy, during, after and now?

Surprisingly, seeing as mentioned above I did love my food when I was pregnant, I only gained about two stone during my pregnancy (I’m not exactly sure because I didn’t weigh myself in the last couple of weeks before Harry was born). I have always been fortunate with my weight growing up and have never had any issues with it so pre-pregnancy I was happy with my weight. Immediately after Harry was born I lost about a stone, and now 2 months post partum I am about half a stone heavier than my pre-pregnancy weight. I am not fussed about losing it though because I’m back in my normal clothes and I’m breastfeeding so I feel like my boobs alone weigh an extra half a stone! I wish these boobs would stay. They are my fifteen year old, flat as a pancake, self’s dream, and I plan to enjoy them as much as possible seeing as I know they will never be the same once I stop breastfeeding.
12. Dream holiday with your kids?

I haven’t really thought about holidays to be honest. I always enjoyed going camping around Europe with my family growing up so something like that would be good when he is older.
13. Dream holiday without your kids?

I would love to go somewhere nice and hot like the Amalfi Coast in Italy or the Greek Island Santorini, but I feel like it will be a long time before I feel comfortable leaving Harry for a holiday.
14. How has your life changed since your baby has been born?

I just feel really content. Obviously my life has changed massively in terms of what I now spend my days doing but I just feel so happy and like I wouldn’t change anything. I’m completely loving every day and really enjoying each stage for how it is.
15. Finish the sentence: ‘It makes my heart melt to see … ‘

Harry smile at me! It really is the loveliest thing and makes all the hard work of the newborn days seem worth it.
16. Where do you shop for your kids?

I mainly shop in Tesco and Next for baby clothes. I find that they both have a reasonable selection of things although there are definitely way more things for girls than boys, and I think the quality is good!.
17. Favourite makeup and skincare products?

My favourite makeup product is mascara, specifically this one from Max Factor and this one from No7. My favourite skincare product is this Superfacialist facial oil which I have bought so many times and still love. I also really like the Liz Earle Cleanse and Polish, and the Liz Earle toner.
18. Huggies or Pampers?

Pampers. I am open to trying other brands as well though but we have bought Pampers the most.
19. Have you always wanted kids?

Yes! I have definitely always wanted lots of kids!
20. Best part about being a mum?

I would say the best part is seeing this little person that you have created learn more things every day, and also the way they beam at you like you are the centre of their world.

Anyway, I hope that lets you know a little bit more about me. I think I might do a more general one as well soon, because as a new mum it is easy to feel like you have lost your identity a little bit.

What My Kid Wore Wednesday #1

What My Kid Wore Wednesday #1

I absolutely love dressing Harry in cute outfits, and we were given so many lovely things that he grows out of so quickly that I thought it would be nice to document his outfits in some way. I then spotted the blog and instagram post by Sarah from This Mama Life called ‘What My Kids Wore Wednesday’ and I thought it seemed like a perfect way to do so. True to form Harry then vommed all over his outfit but I thought I would take a quick snap anyway because it’s a super cute dungaree set!

He is wearing a long sleeve grey vest, that has a really cute robot on that is covered by the dungarees, from Tesco that you can find in a multipack on sale for £2 here.

I will definitely be buying these in the next size up as Harry is currently wearing 0-3 month clothing but they are starting to get a bit snug and I love these long sleeve vests with the random English weather.

The dungarees were a present and I can’t find them online anywhere but they are from a brand called ‘Nursery Time’ and they are so cute. I will be so sad when he grows out of them! They also have a little tab on them that says ‘I love free hugs’ which I think is just adorable.

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